Immorality - inspired by Leebo1010

I wrote a post on morals, ethics and integrity the other day and got some great responses. I was the happiest little person pouring over and contemplating everything that everyone took the time to write. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

I live for that sort of thing.

I love accuracy.

No, I don't just love accuracy.
I'm utterly and completely in-love with accuracy.

I try not to be entirely retentive about it when it comes to other people because I do make mistakes all the time. Those mistakes are simply things I haven't approached/learned/concluded yet.

I'll get to it eventually.

Side note: My 'I try not to be entirely retentive about it when it comes to other people' should be quantified with: to no avail if one were to interview Grant because that poor guy gets hit with, "explain" and, "What do you mean by that?" and, "where on earth did you come up with that from?!" on a regular basis - but that's sort of the price of being in a relationship with me. I always want to know where the person I'm with stands on things.

That aside, when I learn something and I'm satisfied with the results, I can then bank that conclusion and move onto the next item.

The sticky part is that words change and evolve over time. So, it's a matter of defining what it means and then, what it means to you.

I...love...that...

Then again, that may be because while most people question the core reasoning for life - I've settled on that reasoning being learning. To me, life is all about learning.

To take that one step even further, I think life is all about learning yourself.

I have that all broken down into finite points as well. I also believe that we're all here to learn different things about ourselves and everything around us and the worst thing anyone can do to another person is get in the way of what that other person is suppose to be here to learn.

Some people learn those things through religion (which is why I would never say a religion is wrong for anyone else, only myself). Some may learn it through teaching others (in order to be effective, you have to really know yourself to be able to teach anyone anything other than a proven concept). Some may learn it from the blood, sweat and tears they put into something of value to them (passion should never be discounted, it can move mountains).

That's a post for later.
One thing at a time.

The beauty of this concept is; you can literally learn something from every single solitary thing that exists in this world. Plants, animals, people, situations - it's all there for the taking.

Freely and consistently.

Examples: You want to understand evolution? Consider a plant for more than five seconds before you mow it down with the law mower. You want to know about basic primal instincts? Observe an animal and its habits. You want to understand patterns? Watch human beings when they're acting naturally and without thought going about their every day lives. You want to know yourself? Go back over in your head your own deep seeded reactions after a crisis.

When you think of life like I do, the world is a candy store.

A candy store and you have a sweet tooth, superhuman teeth that will never decay, no body image issues and unlimited funds at your disposal.

What inspired me to write today's post is a comment that Leebo1010 made to my morals, ethics and integrity post.

She said something about, "is it immoral of me to even think about something that I deem immoral" - *I* being *her*. The contemplation was over having another husband(s) or wife(wives).

She could not have picked a better example!

If, for the last 100 years, it was commonplace for women to have two husbands - and most of us had two husbands and society was totally cool with it; encouraged it even, no one would blink an eye.

The majority of shows on TV would depict two husband households all with smiling, happy faces. The concept would be showcased in everything we see. TV ads, movies, sitcoms - everything.

Your sister, your mom, your grandmother: If all they've talked about all your life is you growing up and finding yourself two good husbands to take care of you and your off-spring, would you consider it in any shape or form immortal?

If your dad screened every guy you walked through the door (while doing the manly thing by cleaning his shotgun in front of said guys) by going, "your intentions, both of you, had better be nothing less than honorable towards my daughter..." - would that then still be immoral?

Hell, it's even practical.

You'd sit around with your girlfriends and go over hours worth of analysis about what kind of guys you wanted in your life.

"So and so is a great provider. He's wicked smart and reliable and has a great work ethic. He'd work three jobs before he'd see our family living in a cardboard box! He's dependable. You can always go to him with any problem you have and he'll know how to make it better."

Random Girlfriend: "What about the second guy?"

"I think it would be best if it was someone good with their hands. Someone that can fix practically anything. Someone good with kids and has a truckload of patience. One who is street smart and understands the value of the little things. He's thoughtful and kind."

Second girlfriend: "Really? I think I want someone who's artistic and loves nature. He's interested in saving the world. The other one would be someone that builds empires and wants to take the family out to see every country out there so we can all value what we have even more."

Third girlfriend: "I want two guys who will stay home while I go out and realize my dream. I want kids, but I don't want to be responsible for the day to day stuff. They can handle the house and keep the property up and be great stay-at-home dads! I'll provide everything.

Forth girlfriend: "I want to stay at home, raise my kids and both of them to go out in the world and work so we all have the finer things in life. Two incomes will afford us that. We can even have in-law quarters built onto the house so they have a place all to themselves to unwind after work. It can be filled with all the top-of-the-line electronics they could possibly want. It'll be great! We'll have a maid and I'll always look good and not be tired because I won't have to handle everything domestic myself on top of the kids."

The Quiet Girl in the corner: "I want all three of us to start a company together. I want us all to think along the same lines and create something that will make a real difference in the world. Kids are over-rated and I'm glad we're not pigeon-holed into believing that that's the only important thing in life. That concept is so 1986!"

The combinations are endless.

Society and religion rule our morality.

It throws down and dictates what we're suppose to value. That's why I don't give much, if any, credence to morals. If we all grew up where the above was a commonplace and acceptable way of life - that's exactly how it would be.

Commonplace and acceptable.

At some point in life, it could turn out to be exactly that way. Our economy could very well make it that way. Instead of requiring two incomes to survive, it may turn into requiring three incomes to survive. It may come about from pure necessity.

Would that make it immoral?
Not if everyone was doing it.

You (and all of us) have just been brought up to not think like that because it's not what is portrayed as the norm.

I'm not just saying 'two guys' either. I don't know anyone that wouldn't want some version of a 1950s housewife either. The above was just an example of how it could be - and how it could be that way without it being immoral.

That's all.
I'm not actually advocating anything either way.

The theory could be applied to a myriad of things; including our sexuality. If you were brought up to think that being with the same sex up until the age of consent of marriage was totally acceptable and preferred - and even promoted as practical because it cuts down on unwanted pregnancy; then we'd all be bi-sexual without any kind of stigma attached to it too.

That's the power of societal thinking - and why I don't really trust it or etch it in stone in my mind.