Rewrite History

Sometimes jealousy can crop up when you’re with someone.  It’s an unfortunate part of human nature.  There is a way you can process it without it consuming you though: 

Rewrite History.

If you can not properly put someone else’s past into perspective – take on a new way of viewing it:

Rewrite History.

  

Whatever the person you’re with did before you, it will never be the same as when they do it with you.  That counts for a lot. 

People gather favorite places, favorite activities, favorite ways of doing things.  That’s normal.  Don’t make them give it up.  Instead, became a part of it. 

Just because your significant other went to some restaurant with their ex for years on end doesn’t really mean anything if you keep in mind that whatever they experienced during that time – isn’t the same as what they will experience with you.

You are the present.
The ex is the past.

It is not uncommon for one party to refuse to go to a destination just because their boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse was there before with someone else.

It doesn’t matter.
They haven’t been there with you.

The conversation won’t be the same.  The reactions won’t be the same.  The overall atmosphere won’t be the same.  The chemistry won’t be the same.  It can’t possibly be – they haven’t been there with you yet. 

You have a slate to rewrite upon.  Use it wisely. Make a new memory and make it yours and make it the best it’s ever been.

Rewrite History.

Don’t look at it as competing with the past.  Look at it as creating something new and replacing history. 

Do not let jealousy get in the way of building memories. 

You both like dancing and the best place to dance close by is somewhere he used to take his ex, so what?  Go.  Go, anyway.  Go and dress your best and be your delightful self. 

Take ownership of the experience.

Think about it.  If you go begrudgingly and you sulk the whole night and your mind is filled with all the possibilities of what they did before you were there with him – it will show.

When it does, you’ve just ensured that his fondest memory of that particular place — won’t be of the time he was there with you.  You’ve just sealed his ex as being a better time there than you were. 

You don’t want that now, do you?
No, you don’t.

It’s a little like repainting a wall.  Sure, the walls were a nice color before.  They always look better freshly painted over though, don’t they?  Even if it’s just a shade different; it’s still new and fresh and bright and nicer.  It’s what’s in the here and now.

Repaint. Rewrite. Replace. Reprogram.
Make it yours.

Men, if she tells you that her favorite place to vacation is the Poconos Mountains and she’s been there with her ex – again, it doesn’t matter. 

She wasn’t there with you.  Don’t even bring up her previous experience there.  It doesn’t matter.  She’s with you now and you’re clearly the better man, correct?  A better man knows he doesn’t have to compete with someone she’s no longer with. You’re there of your own merits, so it can only be a better experience with you, right?

You be your charming, chivalrous self.  So much so that you will eventually become the man that she wishes she had been there with each and every time when she thinks back on what a good time you had together. 

Be the man that makes all her other times pale in comparison next to being there with you.  You can do that!

Rewrite History.

You’ve just been presented with a golden opportunity.  Be an opportunist!  Use it for everything it’s worth! 

See how there’s no reason to be jealous of anything if you look at it this way?  Of course they haven’t had the best time somewhere.  They couldn’t possibly have – because they haven’t been there with you yet.

You’re the new paint – color their world vividly and be what stands out the most in their mind.  You are, without question, perfectly capable of doing that. 

Once you get the hang of that way of looking at things; you’ll realize that the only person you’ll ever have to out-do is yourself – and there is zero reason to ever be jealous of yourself.